How to look back on 2018 with Positivity (by Sam)

So let me start off by saying, getting this post out has been a struggle. Even getting up the will power to start the bloody thing felt like a weight on my shoulders. I could have, and probably should have, started this post during the Christmas break to get ahead. But me being me, I put it off and put it off until once again I’m typing it out the day of. Why? I don’t know for certain, but I have a few ideas.

This post was scheduled to be about 2019 goals (not resolutions). I know, I know, I’m a basic bitch, so sue me. I think part of my problem with creating that type of post is the fear of failure. If I have goals written down, something for others to hold me accountable to, well, what happens if I don’t complete it? Probably nothing, but my brain tells me otherwise. Why start something you have already set yourself up to fail at? What a waste of energy.

But I hate that I think that way. So I thought, how do I go about changing the way I think? Or at least, how do I get around my brain thinking that way?

It was in looking at why I wanted to originally create goals for 2019 in the first place that I had a bit of an epiphany. I mean, I have never been one to want to set myself goals before, so why now? I have been so busy cursing 2018, saying what bad a year it was and how I wanted 2019 to be nothing like it that probably sparked the idea to “make sure” that changed. It’s safe to say all that negative energy was doing nothing to improve anything!

It was in scrolling through the WordPress reader, looking for some much needed inspiration, that I came across someone’s post for a 2018 roundup. My first thought was, I could never do a post like that, 2018 was awful. But after a second’s hesitation, I opened open my photos on my Mac and started to reminisce on the year. And you know what hit me? I was focusing so much on the bad things, that I was completely forgetting about the truly amazing things that happened!

In an attempt to perk myself up, I thought I would share with you all some of the best memories I will take away from 2018:

Starting our Blog

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I thought about ending with this one, but I have decided to go for some sort of chronological order. It also leads into so many other great memories that it makes much more sense to me to have this first! Especially as it was all the way back in February that we started! I can’t believe we have been doing this for almost a year! We started the blog mainly as a way to get out and do something with our lives, but also as a way to spend more time together. And looking back on some of our pictures and blog posts together I would say that we definitely achieved that!

Days Out Brunching

One of the days I can’t believe I was forgetting was the Duck and Waffle brunch! This was the first outing we arranged primarily for the blog. I remember getting there and thinking how fancy it was! And don’t get me started on the views. The food was lovely, but I will never forget the feeling of my stomach dropping 40 floors in the elevator on the way down 🤢 I had to turn my back on the window so I couldn’t see the world flying past as we went down. I think it was a close call that no-one saw my brunch again that day!

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Days Out Blogging

I am extremely guilty of putting a downer on 2018 because Chris and I didn’t go on holiday anywhere. I love to travel, to visit new places and have an explore. But I was in much need of a reminder that just because Chris and I didn’t get on an aeroplane and go somewhere exotic, doesn’t mean I didn’t go to new places! I am always saying that I would like to travel round more of the UK; Scotland is probably top of my list, to visit some beautiful Lochs. I have lived in Kent my whole life, and I’m a bit ashamed to say I don’t seem to go much further than that. In 2018, however,  Anna, her hubby and I took a day trip to Southend-on-Sea, which really sticks out for me. The weather was gorgeous. It was the height of summer. And best of all, it was somewhere new for me! I loved it, it reminded me a bit of Hastings with all the arcades, but was so Essex as everything was on a much grander scale!

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Days out with Family

There are a few days from 2018 that are sticking out to me now I am thinking back. To name a few were:

  • Taking my mum out to lunch to Cote in Canterbury and getting mobbed by wasps!
  • Afternoon Tea with mum at the Secret Garden
  • A day in London visiting the V&A museum and the Natural History museum with Chris

Unfortunately I didn’t get a chance to blog about these days out; but I still have the pictures, so maybe there is hope yet! The ones I can bring back to life, however, are a few days out with my Dad. If I am being good and sticking to date order, the first would be our trip to London Sky Garden for Father’s Day. I actually blogged about this trip for Christmas believe it or not, as I thought it was a good idea for others to think of as a present. To have a read about the day, click here, even if it is no longer Christmas!

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And then there was our annual airshow trip to Fairford, this year being 100 year anniversary of the RAF. I always love our airshow trips. This year we had some lovely blue skies, as well as some freaky downpours (don’t you just love the UK weather), but the blue skies made for some lovely photos this year.

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STOCKHOLM BABY!

How on earth could I not think of this trip when I think of 2018?! How could I possibly say I didn’t travel in 2018?! What an outright liar I am!

I absolutely loved Stockholm. It is such a beautiful city and there were so many great attractions to visit. I also tried my very first cardamon bun while I was there, and I can’t believe I am saying this (being the sweet tooth that I am), but I preferred them to Cinnamon Buns! 😱

Anna and I have touched on one of the days from our trip to Stockholm, but have no where near finished it! We packed so much stuff into that 3 day trip, it would be a shame to not share every last detail with you all. So if I set myself any goal in 2019, it will be to finish that series of posts!

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Oh yeah, I got Engaged!

Did I forget to mention this? I feel like I did 😂 I think it’s because I didn’t want it to come across that I was rubbing it in.

But rub it in I shall now! * Rubba dub dub*

I didn’t have a clue he was planning it. We had been out to dinner in the evening as I had gotten back from a trip to Southampton for work, so thought, why not go out? We had a lovely evening in each other’s company, and as I climbed into bed ready to slip into my food coma, Chris turned over and said that he had such a lovely evening, that he didn’t want to wait any longer and pulled the ring from his bed side table.

The first word out of my mouth was:

“What?!”

I felt a bit guilty for that afterwards 😂 bless him, it must have made him a bit nervous! Needless to say of course I said yes! It was perfect for me; I would hate to be the centre of attention in some restaurant. Just the 2 of us was prefect. I love my ring. I love him. What more can a girl ask for?

Engaged!

Adopting our cat

Or as Anna will call it, adopting our fur baby. Because that is exactly what she has become! I was very nervous about getting a cat as I have always grown up with dogs. I was very much under the misconception that cats are all high and mighty; that they didn’t need or want a lot of attention. How wrong was I?! But I am so glad that I was.

Lola is the best little cat we could have asked for. She loves to cuddle, and sleep on my pillow, and barrels down the stairs when I get home so she gets a fuss. Her purrs are the sound of thunder, and she is like Toothless (for How to Train your Dragon) brought to life! When she is in a playful mood and sprints from one end of the house to the other, Chris and I will often be heard shouting,

“NIGHT FURY!”

* If you don’t get that quote, WATCH THE FILM!

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Moving on in 2019

I can’t believe I looked back on 2018 with such negativity; yes it had its downs but I don’t need to harp on about and feel sorry for myself, as it truly had so many more ups that I need to spend more time remembering. If anyone else is feeling down about the last year, I urge you to look it back over! Going through old photos really helped change my perspective.

So what will I do differently in 2019? Probably not a lot in terms of goals (that I did make an attempt at writing down). I hope our blog continues to grow, and that Anna and I get to go on plenty of impromptu adventures this year! We already have another trip to Stockholm scheduled in 😋 I hope she helps me plan the best wedding possible for 2020! I hope Chris and I manage to get away, even if it’s not abroad, and I look forward to more days out with my family!

Thanks for sticking with this lengthy post!

Happy New Year everyone ❤️

Until Next Time,

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14 thoughts on “How to look back on 2018 with Positivity (by Sam)

  1. I loved this post so much 💕 I can agree with you so much. Most of the time we focus on the negative instead of the positive things that happened in a year. When I looked back I also saw a lot of positive things and that increased my happiness 😊 Life is about ups and downs every year. I’m glad for all the amazing things you did. Congratulations Sam on the engagement 🎉💕 That’s amazing news. How lovely that you have a cat 😻 I also would love to visit Stockholm xx

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  2. Congratulations on the engagement and the adoption of your newest family member! It’s so easy to wallow and forget about all the good things that have happened. I didn’t feel like I had a great 2018 but I will now take your advice and have a closer look to find more positives from last year 🙂

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    1. Thank you very much! I’m looking forward to getting stuck into all the planning now 😊 I’m glad this post has inspired you to look back with a bit more positivity. I was in such a downer whenever I thought about 2018, it’s nice to take stock and realise how many more positives there were! Sam x

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  3. Awesome post Sam! ❤️ The Air Show picture is spectacular. I used to feel negative feelings by year’s end til I began journaling the top 3-5 things I am grateful for daily. I now look back at it and rejoice at all the small little things that make me happy. xx

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  4. I loved this post, it is so realistic because sometimes yearly round up posts can seem so false and happy all the time, when in reality, life can be so shitty! But I am so so happy for you both with the amazing things you have achieved this year! Woo you go ladies! xx

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